Confessions of a Domestic F…

Bismillah.

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Assalamu aleikum waramatulahi wabarakatuhu dear bloggers,

It has been a long time! I pray this finds you well, ameen. November 2015 – November 2017. Subhanallah, it has been two years since I’m making a living from home while trying to homeschool my son. It has been challenging to say the least. Many days I question my choices of wanting to be home with him. Please put your feet in my shoes haha! I’m human, and I can’t escape the doubts or whispers at times.

That said, it has been a humbling and rewarding experience for me. The stress is still present in my life but at least I get to see how my son is blooming into an intelligent human being masha’Allah. I love the priceless moments I can’t explain, and I make a mental snapshot of them for the future insha’Allah.

I also try not to take his moments of mischievousness to heart. Toddlers can be so trying but I always make a silent prayer when he listens, surprises me, or simply asks for my permission.

Many days I think he is not growing fast enough or speaking the way I want him to express himself. And my patience has improved alhamdullilah. A lot of sign language and key words are usually thrown in our daily conversations. Sometimes, they make the exchange frustrating for him and me but many times I’m happy he’s picking up words I say to him daily. I push myself to not give up because when he repeats the words right away or another day randomly, I know I have taught him that.

So even if sometimes I question my homeschooling skills because he is the only one, and he gets limited amount of time outside with other children at the playground, I’m proud and happy to know that 99% of his vocabulary and ways of acting come from me; the mother because I’m always there for him alhamdullilah. The hubby pitches in too alhamdullilah. He plays with the kiddo the way I don’t always play. I can be pretty serious and intense with my son haha!

I’m sure many mothers can relate. It’s often hard for us to roll on the carpet and play around when we have tons of things to do around the house and the internet. Having said that, I’m really thankful that the kiddo still makes me the number one person to go to in his life. I know my place, and he knows it. Mommy is his ultimate nurturer. And Daddy is really, really, really fun masha’Allah.

Am I a failure or a fabulosity? You decide. I know my answer now alhamdullilah :).

May Allah help us raise the best of the muminun, ameen.

Jazakh’Allah khair for reading,

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

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Me (a mother to be insha Allah), my mother, and my mixed feelings on Mother’s Day

A post about mothers I wrote a few years ago 😉

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Anas (radi allahu anhu) reported that Rasulullah (sallallahu aleihu wassalam) said, “Verily, Heaven lies under the feet of our mother.”

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Assalamu aleikum dear bloggers,

For Muslims and non-Muslims that celebrate Mother’s day, I hope I don’t bust your bubble with this post about the upcoming and special event for you that is Mother’s Day. Everyone is free to do what they want but this is my opinion and no hard feelings or backbiting please ;).

How did this hallmark event start? Well, a woman by the name of Anna Reeves Jarvis decided to honor her mother after she died in 1905. It finally became an American holiday in 1908 after her many attempts to get to that result.

From this point on, it spread slowly throughout the world, and it is celebrated almost everywhere today.

The Sunnah tells us this below on mothers:

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said:…

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SISTERS READS: Jasmine Falling

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Written by Shereen Malherbe | Reviewed by Papatia Feauxzar | Published by MB Publishing

SHEREEN 1Jasmine Falling is a contemporary women’s fiction novel by Shereen Malherbe, a British Palestinian writer based in both the UK and the United Arab Emirates. Malherbe is also a writer for Muslimah Media Watch, a forum for critiquing the images of Muslim women in the media and pop culture.

Mainly told through the eyes of the main character, Jasmine Falling also dabbles into the unseen – the Djinn and human connection to be precise. The first mentioning of the Djinn in this book rather unsettled me because I didn’t read what the book was about before diving in or I thought that I had an idea of how it would be, it came to me as rather a shock. But as the story unravels with the author’s great narrative and descriptive skills of creating the setting…

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Riding the Samoosa Express: Personal Narratives of Marriage and Beyond

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SamosaRiding the Samoosa Express is a metaphor to refer to the process of courtship, love, marriage and beyond. It’s a well written tale sampling the diversity and the different faces the Indian Muslim women contributors experienced.


These personal narratives range from very funny tales like Farhana Ismail’s father’s izzat (honor) demands and Somayya Hansrod’s mishaps in the kitchen to soul searching and self actualization stories such as the ones of Yasmin Denat and many other anonymous and non-anonymous contributors.


A very thought provocative compilation, Riding the Samoosa Expresstell us that what may be true for one Muslim woman is not necessarily true or the norm for another Muslim woman. Each Muslim woman has a different life and a different culture. So some of these stories mirror the lives of other Muslim women around the globe while many don’t.


Many of the stories spoke to me. For instance, I felt…

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Jasmine Falling – An Interview with Shereen Malherbe

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SHEREEN 1Papatia Feauxzar: Assalamu aleikum Shereen. Welcome to Hayati Magazine. Please tell us a little bit about yourself.

Shereen Malherbe: Shereen Malherbe is a writer, author & speaker who spends her time in the U.K and the United Arab Emirates. She is an advocate for diverse narratives in literature and a mother of three. She also writes for Muslimah Media Watch about the representation of Muslim women in the media and pop culture. Her work also features in various newspaper opinion columns, magazines and has represented non-profit organisations.

PF: Congratulations on your novel, Jasmine Falling, being published! Masha’Allah. I have to say that at first, your main character came off as a Muslim person to me. So, some of her choices made me ponder for a moment because my subconscious played the haram police a bit. *Laughs.* Was your intention to put a little doubt in the…

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The Broken Half- A Review

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Sahar book coverSahar Abdulaziz is a resident of Pennsylvania. From her website, Sahar Abdulaziz graduated with a bachelor’s degree in psychology before going on to earn her master’s degree in health and wellness promotion and administration. Also holding a certification in community health, she has answered hotline phones and worked as a domestic violence counselor/advocate. Abdulaziz, as a staunch advocate for mutual respect and acceptance, currently acts as a speaker and writer dedicated to helping those with hidden and painful disorders cope more successfully.

Her BookThe Broken Half is a tale about domestic violence and how if left unchecked causes a lot of collateral damages. The story saddened me on numerous occasions because of the trials her characters went through; especially Zahra Evans. The assaults on Zahra traumatized me for a few days until I decided to make an effort to turn the page. I have to applaud the author Abdulaziz…

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#GirlLove Tag

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flowers bloomThank you Sana Khan for nominating. It’s truly an honor dear. You’re smart, cute. classy, and a keeper masha’Allah.

Thank you to Abidah for that visiting her blog reminded me of this long overdue post! 🙂

So What is this #GirlLove Tag:

“It is in response to Lilly Singh’s video on YouTube, you can watch it at end of this post . The money collected by her will go to Malala fund where they will use it for Syrian Girl’s Education so each view matters.The video is about promoting  Girls love and combatting jealousy among women.The amount of energy women spent in putting other women down can be used to  lift each other up.”

We recommend you to watch it iA :). It’s less than 7 minutes!

Here’s what you do for the #GirlLove:

  1. Tell your followers who inspires you, a famous woman who may be dealing with negativity on…

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