Tips to Raise an Inspired Child

Assalamu aleikum!

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How have you guys been? We have been busy between homeschooling, all my hats (my different jobs), and a lot of etc. alhamdullilah. I have a small list of things that have worked for us alhamdullilah. Check them out.

1. Making Time for Child Play

During the week, we strive to go outside at least three times. There are weeks where we go to outside playgrounds more than three times. Every week brings its own challenges. So, do what works for you but take them out to play so they can bloom and let out that bouncing energy and joy they possess masha’Allah.

2. Going to Creative Children’s Playgrounds

Crayola experience, Children’s Museums and Lego stores are just a few places that will spark your child’s creativity. Watch out for discounts and free promotions. Then, go enjoy a nice time with your family. You will witness a genius in the making just by them being in such colorful environments and brushing shoulders with other wonderful spirits like them masha’Allah bi’ithnillah. May Allay preserve and protect our children, aameen.

3. Freedom

If they mess up the carpet or write on the walls or floors with crayons or paint. That’s fine. It’s not the end of the world. The mess can be cleaned. Let them express themselves but give them limits or where it’s appropriate to let their imagination flourish every now them. That way, they don’t take too much advantage of your leniency. Besides, all this is part of their development.

4. Teach them with Patience

Check yourself often so that your momentary crankiness doesn’t spill over. They will notice that you’re less nice than the people around you if you don’t have an handle on your mood. Also, tell them new words and believe that will absorb quickly and fast! Masha’Allah, they have a computer (brain) that still has a lot of memory. It’s the only way they will learn from you and talk. There is no magic. The vocabulary you expose them to, is what they grasp and run away with. Remember that if you’re struggling to get your only child to speak.

5. Dua

This is everything. Without constantly supplicating, your mental shield will disintegrate. Once they start misbehaving and that you keep your cool while supplicating and carrying on, you will notice that the screams, the cries, etc. will not penetrate and mess with your vibes. You will be like walking in the rain without getting wet. Trust me on that *wink*.

And when they show you an inspired side of them, make dua for them too so that Allah always increase their knowledge, allahumma aameen.

That’s it for now. Thank you for reading.

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

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Bedtime Sunnahs: Emulating the Prophet one night at a time – A Review

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Summary: This rhyming book outlines several nighttime Islamic practices for kids —and even adults— to implement before going to bed. Fostering a love for the Prophet’s Sunnah, as well as teaching children to practice good deeds consistently. Also includes references to associated hadiths, an explanation of Islamic terminology, and additional advanced practices.

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About the Author: Alia G. Dada was born and raised in Southern California. She graduated from Cal Poly Pomona with a Bachelors Degree in Business Administration and a Minor in the Spanish Language. Shortly after, she moved to Cairo, Egypt. After privately studying Arabic she went on to obtain her degree in Islamic Law (Shariah) from the Al-Azhar University. Blessed with a child who has a love for reading, she was inspired to write a book that would help caregivers water the seed of faith and Islamic literacy in the hearts of young Muslims.

The Illustrator: You can read more on Robin Boyer here.

Publisher: Prolance

Review: Bedtime Sunnahs is a colorful, rhyming, and informative children’s book. Young and old can learn something anew on bedtime sunnah practices insha’Allah. It shows and portrays many Muslim families of  diverse background. Bedtime Sunnahs is definitely inclusive and a must-have for every Muslim household masha’Allah! I give this free review copy a 5 stars! You can buy it at Prolance here.

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Thank you for reading,

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

Review of ‘Muslim Girl-Growing Up – A Guide To Puberty’

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Summary: “How can I prepare her for this new phase? I wanted to find a resource that can explain the details of this special stage while also integrating the important aspects of it from the Islamic religion. Being from the West, most books I found only explained the physiological changes. But I found that Muslim girls, especially ones from Western countries, need to know more about the religious implications of this stage. So I decided to write this guide to help young girls understand the basic things a Muslim girl should know about puberty, including the religious aspects that come along with it. However, this guide is just a starter to the journey ahead.  I encourage parents to talk with your teens and pre-teens about this important stage of life to have a full and thorough understanding.” – Natalia Nabil

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About the Author: Natalia Nabil is a mother of two girls. She was born and raised in Egypt where she received her Bachelors of Arts in Mass Communications from Ain Shams University. Shortly after she began working in public relations and marketing. After marriage, she moved to the United States and is bringing up her daughters in, what she calls, unfamiliar territory. That is why she wanted to write this book, not only as a resource for her growing girls but for the many Muslim girls growing up who could use a guidebook on all things puberty-related.

About the Illustrator: Melani Putri is an illustrator based in Jakarta, Indonesia. After finishing her visual art education at Bandung Institute of Technology, she has been focusing on children’s book illustration and has won the National Folktale Illustration award in 2016. Her illustration works include children’s books, greeting cards, posters and stationery. Please visit her website at www.memels.com.

Thoughts: Muslim Girl, Growing Up is a good start point to use in helping a Muslim girl transition into adolescence. It covers topics of puberty, stages of puberty, menstruation, what a girl needs to know before, during and after puberty, hygiene, and privacy. Like I said, it’s very solid and succinct. Masha’Allah.

Now, just be aware that based on your madhab (Islamic doctrine or school of thought), you might not completely agree with everything from the scholars’ point of views (e.g. the steps of ghusl part) or even the author at times (e.g. braids and ghusl). Nonetheless, the book has a solid base on how to instruct Muslim girls from start to end about menstruation. Check out the sneak peek page below.

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I received a free copy for my honest opinion. You can buy Muslim Girl, Growing Up: A Guide to Puberty on Amazon or at the publisher’s website here.

Thank you for reading,

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

 

Confessions of a Domestic F…

Bismillah.

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Assalamu aleikum waramatulahi wabarakatuhu dear bloggers,

It has been a long time! I pray this finds you well, ameen. November 2015 – November 2017. Subhanallah, it has been two years since I’m making a living from home while trying to homeschool my son. It has been challenging to say the least. Many days I question my choices of wanting to be home with him. Please put your feet in my shoes haha! I’m human, and I can’t escape the doubts or whispers at times.

That said, it has been a humbling and rewarding experience for me. The stress is still present in my life but at least I get to see how my son is blooming into an intelligent human being masha’Allah. I love the priceless moments I can’t explain, and I make a mental snapshot of them for the future insha’Allah.

I also try not to take his moments of mischievousness to heart. Toddlers can be so trying but I always make a silent prayer when he listens, surprises me, or simply asks for my permission.

Many days I think he is not growing fast enough or speaking the way I want him to express himself. And my patience has improved alhamdullilah. A lot of sign language and key words are usually thrown in our daily conversations. Sometimes, they make the exchange frustrating for him and me but many times I’m happy he’s picking up words I say to him daily. I push myself to not give up because when he repeats the words right away or another day randomly, I know I have taught him that.

So even if sometimes I question my homeschooling skills because he is the only one, and he gets limited amount of time outside with other children at the playground, I’m proud and happy to know that 99% of his vocabulary and ways of acting come from me; the mother because I’m always there for him alhamdullilah. The hubby pitches in too alhamdullilah. He plays with the kiddo the way I don’t always play. I can be pretty serious and intense with my son haha!

I’m sure many mothers can relate. It’s often hard for us to roll on the carpet and play around when we have tons of things to do around the house and the internet. Having said that, I’m really thankful that the kiddo still makes me the number one person to go to in his life. I know my place, and he knows it. Mommy is his ultimate nurturer. And Daddy is really, really, really fun masha’Allah.

Am I a failure or a fabulosity? You decide. I know my answer now alhamdullilah :).

May Allah help us raise the best of the muminun, ameen. 

Jazakh’Allah khair for reading,

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

Read an interview on homeschooling with Papatia Feauxzar here. And check out some books on Muslim homeschooling here and below:

 

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Also check out free printables at Ilma Education here.

A New Parenting Guide Workbook

How to improve your relationship with your child

Jameela Ho

So I’ve finished this guide/workbook last year, would you believe, but I’ve finally managed to put it up on fiverr.

Hey, it wasn’t my fault that I listened to people who say to ‘get all your funnel in place before you launch your product’. I’ve finally said enough to waiting and put it up anyway.

I’m nowhere near to finishing my main product, which is a parenting book about how parents can nurture their relationship with their child through proper communications. I actually have 8500 words for this book but it just snowballed and at the moment seems so insurmountable that I stopped for a while (my procrastination kicking in). I will get back to it one day. Soon, I hope.

So at the moment the ‘lead magnet’ is in place (that is, my guide/workbook). I say that it’s better to have it up out in the world then to…

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5 Ideas to Help Children Memorize Allah’s Names and Attributes

"Mommy, Who Is Allah?"

Memorizing and understanding Allah’s Names and Attributes can be a difficult task especially for children. Children learn at their own pace, which means sometimes it may take some time. Below is a list of wonderful resources aimed to ease the task of memorizing and to simply make learning fun.

http://www.muslimkidsguide.com/5-ideas-to-help-children-memorise-allahs-names-and-attributes/

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Preschool lapbook, Allah made the World – Always Learning Resources

"Mommy, Who Is Allah?"

This is a wonderful hands on activity/craft for pre-school aged children. They will decorate the lapbook with cut outs of the different things that Allah made, such as the sun, fruit, animals, trees… etc.

The author suggests making an “Al-Khaliq” centerpiece for the front cover as an alternative to “Allah Made the World.”

From an emotional intelligence perspective the teacher could divide the lesson into two parts also teaching the virtue of gratitude.

Alhumdulillah for everything! 💗

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“Mommy, Who Is Allah?”

"Mommy, Who Is Allah?"

Super Excited about the up and coming release of the first book, in a series of books, entitled “Mommy, Who Is Allah? (Al-Khaliq, The Creator).

The stories were created in hopes of helping children to get to know and love Allah through His Beautiful Names and Attributes. Each book will tell a story about a conversation held between a mother and her child. Where by, the mother will explain one or more of the Attributes of Allah in a way that will encourage the child to want learn more about Allah, The Creator, The One, The Most Merciful, The King, The Provider, and The Protector. There are six books in all. In Sha Allah.

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