Understand Your Child’s Development — A Review

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Authors: Jameela Ho at Muslim Parenting & Ilma Ed
Irna Fathurrubayah at Atfalna Education 
Weronika Ozpolat at Multicultural Motherhood
Nabila Ikram at Everlearning, Everlasting
Afshan Mohammed
Hannah Morris at ActiveMindCare.

Summary: By understanding your child’s development you can help to nurture your child’s growth in the six areas of development: thinking and intellect, speech and language, motor skills, physical growth, emotional, and moral development.This is a practical book for the Muslim parent, full of activities to nurture each area of growth. Know what to do, when and how.

Review: I always knew by instinct not to rush my child into achieving milestones because the sunnah says that until the child is seven years old, it’s all about playing with the child. Not only did people around me (Pediatrician included) made me feel at times like an unfit mother, they didn’t hide it. What did I do? I prayed on it, and I tuned them out because there was a little voice inside me that kept telling me to just persevere and be patient with my child’s development. And I did, and he got there when he was ready and on his own chef. It hasn’t been easy. I mean how could they dismiss the fact that each child learns and grows at their own pace. It simply baffled me.

Anyway, I nurtured my son’s growth and development by reading any parenting books I could get my hands on, and they supported my decision to let children be children. However, when I came across Understand Your Child’s Development or UYCD, I felt complete and happy at last. This book covers the child’s life cycle to the teenage years; which is a plus alhamdullilah. With in-depth, concrete Islamic and scientific evidences, the book felt like a dream come true.

So in these lights, UYCD is an amazing resource and a must-have for every Muslim parent. May Allah always help us raise great citizens, vicegerents of this earth and above all, great Muslims, aameen.

Get it on Amazon here. And read the press release here.

~ A Ducktrinor Mom ~

 

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Understand Your Child’s Development — A Resourceful Parenting Guide

Assalamu aleikum!

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This amazing resource is by the following professionals :
Jameela Ho at Muslim Parenting & Ilma Ed
Irna Fathurrubayah at Atfalna Education 
Weronika Ozpolat at Multicultural Motherhood
Nabila Ikram at Everlearning, Everlasting
Afshan Mohammed
&
Hannah Morris at ActiveMindCare.

Book launch hosts :
Tiah Ayesha designs ParisLondon
The Muslim Woman Blog
TeacherMabid
Our Amanas Our Futures
Discount Domestic
Alizehmysoul
Let’s Learn Mama
Ilma Ed Muslim Parenting
Black Seedlings
Amuslimmama
All Book Edu PNW
Papatya Feauxzar at a Ducktrinor Mom

EBook link: https://www.amazon.com/Understand-Your-Childs-Development-M

Paperback link : https://www.amazon.com/Understand-Your-Childs-…/…/1947148281

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Your Son Can Be Your Diaby (Henna) Buddy Too

Assalamu aleikum!

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In West Africa, Henna is often referred to as Diaby (Dee-ya-bee.) On the eve of eid, I looked forward to apply Diaby on my hands and feet even if I don’t have a daughter. It was more of a self-care intention. Anyway, my son wanted to take part in it, and I kept telling him that it’s only for girls, and that he had more hair and a beard, he could have partook in. Boy that I was wrong.

After his vehement requests and my husband saying once it was fine for him to play with Henna, I came to the conclusion that he could become my henna buddy. Yes, I’m not always right, haha!

I decided then that Diaby would take the role of a harmless kid’s tattoo. The lessons I learn from being a Mom are simply too many to list here. Alhamdullilah.

You learn more about yourself in the journey actually. Eid Mubarak folks!

Thanks for reading,

 

~ A Ducktrinor Mom ~

Homeschooling Tips for Toddlers

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When you have little people around you, they mess with your stationary. All my markers are dried up or empty because the toddler prefers them to his own crayons. Now, I’m stuck with using his crayons for my own notes….smdh!

Anyway, the above list is a pre-k milestone check-list I found around to check if your kiddo is reasonably progressing before trying to enroll them. That said, I have found out that from doctors to everybody else with an opinion about raising children, there is a great willingness to want to rush children into reaching certain milestones.

Alhamdullilah, we have checked all these milestones naturally without pressure. I have learned that children do things on their own time. You have to pray on it, leave it to Allah and finally show them regularly until one day, it clicks and they become independent with the task you want them to master.

 

Thanks for reading,

~ A Ducktrinor Mom ~

Phonic Time!

Assalamu aleikum bloggers!

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So the kiddo is quite chatty these days alhamdullilah. I taught a small human being how to speak English! Yay, me. I know, it’s giving me a little of a big head I must admit. Anyway, it’s time for phonics which of course he doesn’t care much for. He throws any letters at me that he has heard from alphabet songs…laughs.

The Islamic reader depicted above is the one we are using. You can get it on amazon or here along with other Muslim homeschooling tools.

Hoping y’all are staying warm! Thank you for reading,

~ A Duckrinor Mom ~

Believe – A Journal Review

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Summary: …a raw list…of the rules, obligations, guidelines, regulations, orders, directives, instructions (or however you’d like to perceive them) derived from the 114 chapters, 6,236 verses and 77,449 words in the Quran – the Holy Islamic book.

Author’s Name: A.E.

PublisherProlance

Review: Believe is 34 pages long. I thought it was about what to do and not do with the Quran. But Believe is a simple journal filled with Quranic verses to help the believer live and act by golden rules.

It can definitely be useful when looking for a quick Quranic verse to support a point because the book is divided into 5 easy categories:»»worship »»character»»giving & taking»»relationships »»eating & dressing. In the last section, I found it a bit peculiar that there is a lot of stress on Quran (24:31); I mean the verse is mentioned three times. It would have been better if Quran (33:35) was also added to balance out things. Even adding Quran (24:30) would have worked too. That said, the »relationships » part before the last part helps into smoothing things out because men’s duties are also highlighted.

Moreover, Believe can be used as a reflective tool. Having read the whole transliterated version of the Quran myself and working on reading the whole Arabic version, I recommend using Believe in addition of this short guide titled The 5 R’s of Tadabbur al-Qur’an: A Family Halaqah Guide by Umm Afraz Muhammed. Muhammed’s short guide is about sixteen pages including front and back covers. It’s also an easy and simple read. Check it out here.

The 5 5s of Tadabbur al quran

Below is a sneak page for Believe. Each of these pages is followed by a page to jot down thoughts or ideas.

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You can purchase Believe here.

Thank you for reading,

~ A Ducktrinor Mom ~

Tips to Raise an Inspired Child

Assalamu aleikum!

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How have you guys been? We have been busy between homeschooling, all my hats (my different jobs), and a lot of etc. alhamdullilah. I have a small list of things that have worked for us alhamdullilah. Check them out.

1. Making Time for Child Play

During the week, we strive to go outside at least three times. There are weeks where we go to outside playgrounds more than three times. Every week brings its own challenges. So, do what works for you but take them out to play so they can bloom and let out that bouncing energy and joy they possess masha’Allah.

2. Going to Creative Children’s Playgrounds

Crayola experience, Children’s Museums and Lego stores are just a few places that will spark your child’s creativity. Watch out for discounts and free promotions. Then, go enjoy a nice time with your family. You will witness a genius in the making just by them being in such colorful environments and brushing shoulders with other wonderful spirits like them masha’Allah bi’ithnillah. May Allay preserve and protect our children, aameen.

3. Freedom

If they mess up the carpet or write on the walls or floors with crayons or paint. That’s fine. It’s not the end of the world. The mess can be cleaned. Let them express themselves but give them limits or where it’s appropriate to let their imagination flourish every now them. That way, they don’t take too much advantage of your leniency. Besides, all this is part of their development.

4. Teach them with Patience

Check yourself often so that your momentary crankiness doesn’t spill over. They will notice that you’re less nice than the people around you if you don’t have an handle on your mood. Also, tell them new words and believe that will absorb quickly and fast! Masha’Allah, they have a computer (brain) that still has a lot of memory. It’s the only way they will learn from you and talk. There is no magic. The vocabulary you expose them to, is what they grasp and run away with. Remember that if you’re struggling to get your only child to speak.

5. Dua

This is everything. Without constantly supplicating, your mental shield will disintegrate. Once they start misbehaving and that you keep your cool while supplicating and carrying on, you will notice that the screams, the cries, etc. will not penetrate and mess with your vibes. You will be like walking in the rain without getting wet. Trust me on that *wink*.

And when they show you an inspired side of them, make dua for them too so that Allah always increase their knowledge, allahumma aameen.

That’s it for now. Thank you for reading.

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

Bedtime Sunnahs: Emulating the Prophet one night at a time – A Review

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Summary: This rhyming book outlines several nighttime Islamic practices for kids —and even adults— to implement before going to bed. Fostering a love for the Prophet’s Sunnah, as well as teaching children to practice good deeds consistently. Also includes references to associated hadiths, an explanation of Islamic terminology, and additional advanced practices.

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About the Author: Alia G. Dada was born and raised in Southern California. She graduated from Cal Poly Pomona with a Bachelors Degree in Business Administration and a Minor in the Spanish Language. Shortly after, she moved to Cairo, Egypt. After privately studying Arabic she went on to obtain her degree in Islamic Law (Shariah) from the Al-Azhar University. Blessed with a child who has a love for reading, she was inspired to write a book that would help caregivers water the seed of faith and Islamic literacy in the hearts of young Muslims.

The Illustrator: You can read more on Robin Boyer here.

Publisher: Prolance

Review: Bedtime Sunnahs is a colorful, rhyming, and informative children’s book. Young and old can learn something anew on bedtime sunnah practices insha’Allah. It shows and portrays many Muslim families of  diverse background. Bedtime Sunnahs is definitely inclusive and a must-have for every Muslim household masha’Allah! I give this free review copy a 5 stars! You can buy it at Prolance here.

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Thank you for reading,

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

Review of ‘Muslim Girl-Growing Up – A Guide To Puberty’

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Summary: “How can I prepare her for this new phase? I wanted to find a resource that can explain the details of this special stage while also integrating the important aspects of it from the Islamic religion. Being from the West, most books I found only explained the physiological changes. But I found that Muslim girls, especially ones from Western countries, need to know more about the religious implications of this stage. So I decided to write this guide to help young girls understand the basic things a Muslim girl should know about puberty, including the religious aspects that come along with it. However, this guide is just a starter to the journey ahead.  I encourage parents to talk with your teens and pre-teens about this important stage of life to have a full and thorough understanding.” – Natalia Nabil

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About the Author: Natalia Nabil is a mother of two girls. She was born and raised in Egypt where she received her Bachelors of Arts in Mass Communications from Ain Shams University. Shortly after she began working in public relations and marketing. After marriage, she moved to the United States and is bringing up her daughters in, what she calls, unfamiliar territory. That is why she wanted to write this book, not only as a resource for her growing girls but for the many Muslim girls growing up who could use a guidebook on all things puberty-related.

About the Illustrator: Melani Putri is an illustrator based in Jakarta, Indonesia. After finishing her visual art education at Bandung Institute of Technology, she has been focusing on children’s book illustration and has won the National Folktale Illustration award in 2016. Her illustration works include children’s books, greeting cards, posters and stationery. Please visit her website at www.memels.com.

Thoughts: Muslim Girl, Growing Up is a good start point to use in helping a Muslim girl transition into adolescence. It covers topics of puberty, stages of puberty, menstruation, what a girl needs to know before, during and after puberty, hygiene, and privacy. Like I said, it’s very solid and succinct. Masha’Allah.

Now, just be aware that based on your madhab (Islamic doctrine or school of thought), you might not completely agree with everything from the scholars’ point of views (e.g. the steps of ghusl part) or even the author at times (e.g. braids and ghusl). Nonetheless, the book has a solid base on how to instruct Muslim girls from start to end about menstruation. Check out the sneak peek page below.

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I received a free copy for my honest opinion. You can buy Muslim Girl, Growing Up: A Guide to Puberty on Amazon or at the publisher’s website here.

Thank you for reading,

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

 

Confessions of a Domestic F…

Bismillah.

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Assalamu aleikum waramatulahi wabarakatuhu dear bloggers,

It has been a long time! I pray this finds you well, ameen. November 2015 – November 2017. Subhanallah, it has been two years since I’m making a living from home while trying to homeschool my son. It has been challenging to say the least. Many days I question my choices of wanting to be home with him. Please put your feet in my shoes haha! I’m human, and I can’t escape the doubts or whispers at times.

That said, it has been a humbling and rewarding experience for me. The stress is still present in my life but at least I get to see how my son is blooming into an intelligent human being masha’Allah. I love the priceless moments I can’t explain, and I make a mental snapshot of them for the future insha’Allah.

I also try not to take his moments of mischievousness to heart. Toddlers can be so trying but I always make a silent prayer when he listens, surprises me, or simply asks for my permission.

Many days I think he is not growing fast enough or speaking the way I want him to express himself. And my patience has improved alhamdullilah. A lot of sign language and key words are usually thrown in our daily conversations. Sometimes, they make the exchange frustrating for him and me but many times I’m happy he’s picking up words I say to him daily. I push myself to not give up because when he repeats the words right away or another day randomly, I know I have taught him that.

So even if sometimes I question my homeschooling skills because he is the only one, and he gets limited amount of time outside with other children at the playground, I’m proud and happy to know that 99% of his vocabulary and ways of acting come from me; the mother because I’m always there for him alhamdullilah. The hubby pitches in too alhamdullilah. He plays with the kiddo the way I don’t always play. I can be pretty serious and intense with my son haha!

I’m sure many mothers can relate. It’s often hard for us to roll on the carpet and play around when we have tons of things to do around the house and the internet. Having said that, I’m really thankful that the kiddo still makes me the number one person to go to in his life. I know my place, and he knows it. Mommy is his ultimate nurturer. And Daddy is really, really, really fun masha’Allah.

Am I a failure or a fabulosity? You decide. I know my answer now alhamdullilah :).

May Allah help us raise the best of the muminun, ameen. 

Jazakh’Allah khair for reading,

~A Ducktrinor Mom~

Read an interview on homeschooling with Papatia Feauxzar here. And check out some books on Muslim homeschooling here and below:

 

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Also check out free printables at Ilma Education here.